Love and The Alpha Female

Alpha females. You know who you are. Oprah Winfrey. Anna Wintour. Madonna. Martha Stewart. Jennifer Lopez. To name a few. It is their greatest asset and greatest downfall. These ambitious, high achiever women never take "no" for an answer. They have everything they could dream of....success, fame, money, respect and independence. But what about true love? Are they lacking in that department? Too some, they're pushy, cold, bossy and unemotional. Or maybe they just havent found the right man to compliment them and their lifestyle. Can an Alpha female find happiness with a male who is not as successful and ambitious. Oprah seems to have found happiness with her beau, Stedman, but the same cannot be said about other Hollywood women. Both Britney Spears and Jennifer Lopez didn't hip-hop off into the sunset with their unknown dancer husbands. And actresses like Reese Witherspoon, Hillary Swank and Jennifer Garner's relationships ended in divorce when their careers overshadowed that of their husbands. But I'm not just going to focus on Hollywood. What about the rest of us ambitious, career-driven women in the world. Is there hope for us in finding and maintaining love?

The following are excerpts from an article written by Ana Pasternak which i found interesting.

It is titled "Why an Alpha female should never marry a Gamma male."

At first glance it's easy to see the attraction between these two types. The taut, controlled, go-getting female finds a charming, flexible chap who seems to be everything she is not: relaxed, nurturing and fun. So far, so promising. He can help her uncoil and bring romance and much-needed tenderness into her brittle life, while she can provide a lifestyle which is initially thrilling for its full-throttle dynamism. The rot sets in when the haze of love burns off and lurking resentment on both sides surges to the surface. In this situation, woman want men to pull their weight, mainly financially, and isn't afraid to let him know it. He, in turn, feels emasculated and seeks to undermine her. Relationship terrorism is not, as some glossy women's magazines have suggested, exclusively a male preserve. Both partners are equally guilty in this power struggle which will eventually destroy any chances of a fulfilling, lasting union.

So why don't Alpha females choose Alpha males? One explanation is that these successful women are too needy in emotional terms and think that an Alpha male will not have time for them. The big failure of Alpha women is that they starve themselves of real attention and nurturing so they don't really know what they want in the relationship department. If they are not careful, they end up choosing feminine, caring man to take up the slack. This works in the honeymoon period but afterwards the problem is that each is trying to change the other rather than enjoy each other's differences.

So what do you ladies think? Can successful, driven woman balance career and love in their busy lives with men who are not as ambitious?